Where the problems start however, is when one person in the relationship is still expecting this heightened level of new relationship interaction after a longer period of time. Your boyfriend doesn't think anything is wrong, because to him, what he`s doing is normal when he`s comfortable with someone. As well, he may be needing a bit more time to himself than previously to work out how he really feels about you. Eight months is a long time, and he`s probably wondering where things are going, just as you are. Problem is, he most likely needs some space from you to figure it out.
If still you think your boyfriend isn't interested, here's what I suggest you do:
Focus on yourself for a while. Don`t worry about what your boyfriend is doing, whether that's working a lot or playing video games nonstop. Think about the people and activities you've left by the wayside temporarily while the two of you were forging your relationship, and slowly start incorporating them back into your life.
Take a look at your relationship expectations during your time away from your partner. A quick review may show you that your needs have changed and a discussion is required with your partner. Alternatively, you may find that yes, your expectations have become unrealistic.
Don't call, email, or otherwise contact your boyfriend for a week. Give him some space and time. In fact, if you are able, don`t contact him until he makes contact with you, first. Fill your life and time with other things that aren't related to your boyfriend, and see just how long it takes him to miss you. If your relationship is going anywhere, he will call you soon enough, and the two of you can reconnect lovingly. If, however, he does not make contact within a predetermined amount of time (say, a month), you will know that the relationship is over.
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