t doesn’t matter if you are at a local nightclub or in the grocery store, don’t take a chance of missing a first encounter with a man because you are unsure of how to start flirting. A few tips for making contact and flirting can eventually lead to a date. Consider the first attempts at flirting as practice. It may take a little time to get comfortable and even longer to get results, so don’t give up…eventually the odds will be in your favor!
Before beginning flirting in any location, identify the person of choice as actually single and available for a flirting session. Obviously if there is a ring STAY AWAY! Don’t add unnecessary drama to your life. Some conversation starters that will determine availability and possible interest:
If at a store look in their cart and if there’s no “girl stuff”-say “remember to get something for your wife/girlfriend.”
For a man sitting at the bar alone say, “you must be a great guy for your girlfriend/wife to trust you going out without her.”
In a store if a man is looking at an item of interest, like a pan-“do you and your girlfriend/wife like to cook together?”
Based on the answer, you will be able to determine if a man is available or not. Of course there are those men who are not honest about being single so be alert! Even if you aren’t ready to start flirting, look around and think of other conversations starters that could determine if a man is single and flirting can begin; for when you are ready.
The difference between casual conversation and flirting isn’t in the words as much as it is in the tone, the eye contact, occasional touching of the arm, and intensity of interest. Lots of eye contact is a strong indication of interest.
Flirting tips for first encounters in a grocery store:
Before you even leave the house, check your appearance. Don’t over do the make-up. Your hair should be clean and neat. Put it in a ponytail if it is unruly. If you spend too much time on your looks to go to the store, you could appear high maintenance. Smell clean but not over-perfumed.
When you find someone who is probably single, look for something in his cart to start talking about. Be genuine. If you end up on a date, you don’t want to him have a false idea of your interests. Then find something about his appearance to compliment him on.
If it is busy try to head towards the checkout around the same time to have more time to talk while standing in line together.
Flirting tips for first encounters in a bar:
Take the time to look good before you go out. Take the time to put on make up, do your hair, and wear clothes that are flattering. It is really important to have fresh breath and some nice smelling perfume.
In a bar, it is acceptable to be a little closer while flirting than in a store. While talking, lean towards the person and smile a lot. With the noise of a bar, it is a good excuse to get close to hear a little better.
You want to avoid the typical and worn out pick up lines. It can be a good conversation starter to ask about the worse pick up lines he’s ever used or talk about the worse ones that you have heard.
Flirting tips for first encounters in a park:
Before heading out to play, walk, or workout in the park, be sure your clothes are clean and you are wearing enough deodorant. It will be hard to start a conversation if you smell bad or if you get a little sweaty!
If both of you have kids, compliments on the kids are great conversation starters. Be sincere, because if you are not, it will show. Show interest in his and his kids’ interests at the park.
There is a difference between sounding desperately lonely and hinting around at having some free time available. Before getting close to the time when one of you need to leave, give some warning, so there is time to get the courage up for him to ask you out. Men often still like to be traditional and be the one to ask the woman out, but they will want to feel pretty certain the answer will be “yes” before they ask. During the flirting, there should be several comments that will assure him you’d accept an invitation out.
If at any time that there is no longer interest in the person, be ready to stop the flirting and move to another area. It is awkward for both people when there is a date requested and it must be turned down.
Flirting should be fun and pressure free for both people involved, if it isn’t, you may be trying to hard.
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